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What Child Abuse Looks Like

What Child Abuse Looks Like

Lazare Adingono, who coached the Cameroon national basketball team in the Olympic qualifying tournament last year, has been arrested on charges of using a belt to beat his 4-year-old son.

The father most recently served as an assistance basketball coach for Canisius College, a Catholic college located outside of Buffalo, NY.

Buffalo Police Department spokesman Michael DeGeorge said Friday that Adingono was arrested on Feb. 10 on a felony charge of second-degree assault and misdemeanor endangering the welfare of a child. The Erie County district attorney’s office is investigating and has yet to determine whether to pursue the case against Adingono, who also is a former Rhode Island player.

The 31-year-old Adingono lives in Buffalo, where he is in his third year as an assistant men’s coach at Canisius College.

The Buffalo News first reported Adingono’s arrest on Friday morning.

The alleged beating took place at Adingono’s home in Buffalo on Jan. 15. He is accused of using a belt to strike his son numerous times, causing pain and swelling to the boy’s back, neck and arm, DeGeorge said.

Guess what parents?

This type of beating is against the law. If he wasn’t dead already, I would make sure my own father, who used this form of physical abuse, spent jail time for his cruelty.

Physical abuse of children is like an addiction — one slap, one hit, quickly escalates into a beating. If you don’t hit your children, maybe they won’t hate you — and maybe you won’t end up in jail.

Hitting is wrong.

For one of the most astounding books on the effects of physical discipline on children (and the hidden reasons why adults physically punish children), I strongly recommend For Your Own Good by Alice Miller. I’ve created a link to the book on Amazon.com. There’s no “sale” here for me — I don’t make a penny. My reward is passing along great advice and insights from Dr. Miller.